You can't make someone change!

Some people will promise you they'll change. They'll promise you things will be different and it doesn't matter how many chances you give them they keep being the same person they promised they wouldn't be.  They will keep doing the things they promised they wouldn't do.  I'm all for giving people second chances I'm all for giving people an opportunity to Redeem themselves because we all make mistakes and do things we shouldn't do. But there is such thing as giving someone way too many chances. When it's clear they're not going to change and they don't really want to change and you need to realise that. why do you keep going back to someone who is abusive and then wondering why you keep getting abused. Why do you keep going back to someone who has cheated on you and then wonder why they keep cheating on you again.Why do you keep going back to people who are hateful who are hurtful who are toxic and then wondering why you are so emotionally drained stressed out and unstable!?  It's like putting my hand in boiling hot water and then wondering why it keeps getting burnt! You need to stop going back and compromising and settling for less than what you deserve. Stop giving someone chances over and over again when it's perfectly clear they have no intention of changing and then telling you they'll change and then telling you things will be different. But they are nothing but empty promises!  Don't let loneliness cause you to settle for less than you deserve don't let loneliness cause you to go back to people you shouldn't be going back to just because they are familiar to you.  You can't make someone change, you can ask and plead all you like but in the end its up to them. So you need to recognise when enough is enough. Realise when you have given someone way too many chances and way too many opportunities to change and they haven't changed despite them saying they would.  So the thing you need to change is where that person stands in your life. Stop giving them the opportunity to constantly hurt you and disappoint you you.Try to surround yourself with good people who don't leave you with empty promises and prove what they are saying is true through their actions.  You don't want to spend time and energy looking back and thinking why did I stay and give someone so much of my energy, time, & years all for nothing.  This is just something I look back on in my life with an ex partner and wasted eight years on empty promises hope and when truly deep down I've grown up and realise I should have woken up sooner. I know it's a lot easier said than done but when you do realise all these things you need to realise you're worth, and happiness is worth so much more than what someone is promising you over and over again and see no result in their behaviour or in your relationship with this person.  I see a lot of people going through similar situations and I truly hope people wake up sooner and not let anyone take advantage of your loyalty kindness and especially time. Toxic people like this also make you lose your own self by questioning yourself constantly overthinking maybe it's "me" No it's not and don't lose yourself over someone who you may think is the love of your life when if they truly were you wouldn't be made to feel any of these ways or question yourself or their loyalty and if they will change over and over again!