have a plan and reward yourself :)

I think its best to always have a plan and goals, something to work towards . You cant succeed in life without a goal. Even if they change along the way at least you have some idea of what your doing in life. However, when you do reach that goal always reward yourself with something positive, a holiday, getting your hair done, that chocolate ice-cream you've been craving while trying to loose 5kgs and never ever feel guilty for doing you ! :)

I have goals, goals to finish uni, start a career i'll enjoy, save up for a house deposit and live a happy stable life. It takes time to reach goals but no matter how big or small always remember the reason why your doing it and how your life will be once you have reached that goal. I want to reach my goals and i want to be someone my daughter can admire and look up to. Always remember children don't learn from what you tell them, they learn from what you do and yes we all make mistakes and go through hard times but its about how you get through and come out the other end that counts.

Like i said earlier never feel guilty for doing you. No matter who you are and what role you play in life, you need to feel good and be happy to be there for someone else and positively impact another persons life. Yes i am a mum, yes i am responsible for another person, i need to make sure my daughter is fed, safe, clothed, clean and happy but i also have a right to have "me time", to look good and feel good and to socialize. I have a right to participate in things i am interested in, study and work. Just because i am a mum does not mean that being a mum is my sole identity. When my daughter has grown up and transitioned into adult life i will need to still have my identity and know who i am and what i like as a person. I love my daughter and will be the best mum i can be because i will have that balance.

So remember, love your children but don't feel guilty to do you. Have a plan, make goals and reward yourself for your success :)